There is nothing like starting the morning with drama. It doesn't matter what kind of drama, it's just a tough way to start the day.
Sometimes coffee and a little Today Show can change it up.
Other times a little puppy love does the trick.
Today, who knows.
The journey to launch children is often harder for mothers than fathers. I know that I am way more intertwined with my children than their Dad is. I birthed them, I nursed them, I sent them out to the world. While the umbilical cord was cut at birth, there is an invisible one that remains.
"Cut the cord!" A phrase sometimes used when describing someone who can't seem to separate from his/her parents.
I get that - I hope that once my children head out into the world, they will never move back home again. I want them to know they can if they need to, but I hope they won't. I hope that we've given them the skills to take on the world and make it a better place. I think we have.
I don't like the image of cutting the metaphorical umbilical cord though. The physical one was cut and from that moment on, each of my children began moving away from me.
There is an invisible one though that keeps me connected to them. I don't think that's a bad thing.
Maybe it's just that the cord should be loose and relaxed most of the time, but still connected. Allowing them (or me) to pull a little tighter when necessary.
Maybe the trick is knowing when it is "necessary."
Knowing when your teenager needs to work something out for themselves and when they need your help can be hard. It has always been hard for me to watch my children struggle through something EVEN THOUGH I KNOW THIS IS OFTEN WHEN THE MOST LEARNING TAKES PLACE. What I'm learning though is that it is sometimes difficult for me NOT because of their struggle, but because of how I'm afraid it reflects on me.
It is their journey, not mine. I need to not worry so much about how their journey reflects on me. I am a good mom. I am a good parent. I have taught them well. Some of the very choices they make that I struggle with are because we have raised them to think for themselves and not blindly follow the herd.
Maybe the "cord" is more like a safety rope when you're climbing. It's there just in case. The more responsible and independent they become the more slack you give them until you let it go and they are free.
For now I will hang on so I can pull in a little tighter when necessary and I will continue to